I Had Beef with the Proverbs 31 Woman

Reading about the Proverbs 31 woman before marriage didn't elicit any kind of emotions in me.

But, when I got married and had to juggle the roles of wife, mother, entrepreneur, and leader, I all of a sudden had "beef" with the Proverbs 31 woman.

"No wonder she is fictious!" I thought to myself, "I mean, who stays up until the middle of the night and wakes up long before dawn to worship God, assign her assistants their duties, and do all that this woman does?" Then she slays all day, "prudently" investing across a diverse and might I add, profitable, global portfolio.

The Proverbs 31 woman not only has supernatural stamina (she is a prayer warrior), multi-faceted skills, and extremely honed business acumen, the Proverbs 31 woman is also wise and kind with her words (come on somebody), and "an ever-present help in time of others' need" (give me a break - rolls eyes).

This woman is so sorted that seasons don't affect her - because of her hard work and diligence, she laughs without fear of the future.

I had to stop reading and ask God, what the deal was when I read that her husband sits with the other men at the city gates. I was like, "God, why is her husband just sitting around? Are you trying to tell me that this woman single-handedly takes care of the entire family and her husband gets respected for all the work she does? that's not fair."

I took encouragement from the fact that her children call her blessed (when they finally get out of bed) and her husband showers her with praises and blessings. But, everything else made me wonder if this fictitious woman was reasonable, or maybe she was a mother's tactic to stall her son getting married by putting a measure of a woman that was so far off that no mere mortal could attain.

In my questioning of the practicality of the Proverbs 31 woman, God showed me that she wasn't just a proverbial depiction of an ideal we couldn't really attain; that when we choose to lean in and learn of God's love, purpose and power, we are able to live the purpose-driven, value-based, balanced lives that give us lasting peace, partnerships and prosperity at home and work.

7 years into my marriage, I chose to learn from the Proverbs 31 woman to build the abundant life the Lord Jesus promised us in John 10:10.

2 years later, I am still working on self, allowing the Holy Spirit to teach me to seek, understand and apply the Word, wisdom, strategies and tools of God to grow in every area of work and life.

I created the P31 Womanaire platform as a safe space with empowering resources, and supportive community to help you do the same.

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